Dear Jeremiah,
In response to your e-mail, I will speak in a more direct style than usual, I prefer to clarify not to confuse my readers (if so, I assure you they are) always more more numerous and many.
You do party a majority, I mean a majority of people known as “timid”. And I weigh my words when I speak of majority, because we all share shyness, even the biggest jokers (you know, the guys who always THE sentence to force you to show your teeth and your palate) sometimes shy when it comes to love.
Your case is classic. You speak more easily written and oral, I imagine the notes that you have the tank to your first in French (I say this, but maybe you stepped 3 times your second or even quit school at the end of college, short pass).
To read you, I have the impression that you had all the syndromes of the type that is contained on himself, who took refuge in the virtual world, at least some time ago. The Internet is not inherently evil, after all, is a means of communication as another, even if the old school types will tell you that it’s pure crap because it does not reflect reality ( “nothing better that going in and chat box in the chick alone,” the kind of sentence which I tend to answer “yes no fool, I see the DJ and ask him to lower the sound to let me talk to him “). In short I think we should assume that all means are good to take, just know how to use wisely and not abuse it (dedication to a certain person with a record on almost every dating site).
“Shyness is not genetic (Flipster)
Do not pay attention especially to the preceding sentence, I like m’autociter before pronouncing sentence. Since the magazine ELLE Dragiweb mentioned in his columns, I feel the soul of a writer. In short, behind this pseudo-philosophical sentence nonsensical, in fact hides the answer to everything. Your problem of shyness is not inevitable, but to correct you have to work on yourself.
I do not know your extra-curricular practices (again, I talk about school, but you are perhaps a long-term unemployed). The first advice I want to give you, to gain confidence is to do theater. I can assure you that it helps to overcome shyness. Choose a small amateur theater in your town or elsewhere (if you’re in high school or college, there is necessarily an association or an option), this kind of structure there is a lot of exercises on the body, dialogue, voice, improvisation etc.. Beyond all the benefits on to speak on the gain in confidence and self-confidence, that you will mostly meet people, other people. And that’s important.
Having a network of friend (s), it allows you to output, the life of kiffer looks like another short, do not stay on your PC 24/24 to wait until the woman in your life you come Wizzer. Moreover, even when one has no chance to be a great sweeper (this is something that works, we are not born “flirty”), knowing that the girls know girls , it necessarily creates links and it facilitates the steps … Do not hesitate to play your friend network (s), but it must have a friend (e) s.
The other concerns which you mentioned is physical. The most important thing is to feel good about yourself, then buy clothes that you are, if you have no specific style, you can always choose classic clothes that go everywhere but (while avoiding jackets Santa Fouras horrible … my humor is at the top now). You can go shopping with a friend or a cousin who has a minimum of taste in clothing for women outside an opinion.
Another idea that might help is to set yourself daily goals. For example, I advise you to ask the time once a day to a lady in the street, even if this technique is far from original to approach girls, at least it will help to overcome this fear of dealing another. Also, you talk about your lack of direction, do you think is Dragiweb partner Tom-Tom GPS? We therefore advise you the XRS model pedestrian-453884 … No seriously, your lack of orientation is an opportunity for you to ask the street directions you seek, even if you know the place, do not forget that all means are good to take to approach the other (avoid the still shot of “I’ll shakes violently against a wall and then apologize and try to get your number”). However, before the appointment (since you talk about an upcoming appointment with a girl from net), please go to the tracking site the day before, history does not make the tourist D-Day with a plan City to A3 size.
And above all, as some advice generously given by draginautes on the previous article, tell you something, do it in a tattoo as Scofield if necessary, do not risk anything when you approach someone to talk to him, at worst wind (well ok, sometimes a tornado), and if you’re really unlucky on this century, you risk a slap of his brawny guy, or even a knife to her boyfriend working in the butcher’s corner … therefore relative.